Fear can be a great ally. It puts you on notice that you’re at the threshold of realizing more of your potential. If you step through the threshold, despite your fear, you’re likely to never look back because action replaces fear with inspiration. Your creativity and motivation take over and propel you forward.
Sometimes fear speaks loudly and literally paralyzes you, even though some part of you knows you were meant for this next step.
When I’m afraid, I want to run away! If I slow down long enough to be with what I’m feeling, I realize that what I’m running away from isn’t tangible at all. It’s merely a thought.
“It’s fear of outcome, not the outcome itself that causes pain.
– Larry Crane, The Release Technique
Fear is inevitable. Everyone feels it. So the goal isn’t to stop feeling fear, but rather transform it and be back on your way as soon as you can. Try this quick step-by-step process to get your mojo back on line.
Five Minute Fear Buster
1. Greet fear as a friend.
Make the shift. See fear as an old friend, just passing through. It doesn’t want to move in with you any more than you want it to. A brief visit will do the trick.
2. Hear fear out.
Invite fear in for a short cup of tea. Listen to its story. What’s the worst possible thing? And what else? Oh my, yes, and what are all the convoluted details?
Get it all down on paper. Validate it all as real feeling rather than seeing it as THE TRUTH about you and your future.
When the dreaded “what if’s” and “how to’s” start flooding in, remember, fear just wants to be heard. It doesn’t expect you to abandon your path or let go of your dreams. It certainly doesn’t expect you to know all the answers right now.
When the time comes for action, you’ll “Do all you can, with what you’ve got, from where you are” and the Universe will do its part too. (As Mike Dooley says.)
3. Surround fear with light.
For now, realize that you don’t have to “take on” fear’s story. Instead, put some love on it. Surround fear’s story with light. Let all the hard edges grow fuzzy. Let wisdom float in as fear stands, grateful for this time, ready now to move along.
4. Open the door
Give fear a warm hand and bless it on its way. You’ve given it all it wants and needs.
5. Take decisive action
Whatever you were afraid of, skip lightly into this new territory. Be okay with not knowing everything. Let yourself be “bad” at it until you’re good at it. After all, you know how to grow. You’ve been doing it quite well for a long time.
Then, the next time fear drops in, you’ll know how to hear it out and move it on its way.
What are your tips for moving through fear? Can you imagine seeing fear as a friend or ally? How can you use fear to take whatever bold action is before you now?