Today is all about the F word.
Fear is a powerful force. It can move you toward safety and it can keep you from your destiny.
The feeling is no fun. But, like all feelings, it holds the possibility of transformation.
Daily Fears Go Mostly Unnoticed
On any given day, I feel some amount of fear. What about you?
Fear could show up while I’m listening to the news. Or, if I’m in a car and I or someone else makes a mistake in judgment. It could be a deep concern that rises up about someone I love.
During my work, it could be a moment of uncertainty. Or, maybe I’m trying to learn something new or take a big step that I’ve rarely or never taken.
Fear is a fairly present emotion.
But most of the time fear doesn’t stop us. It might give you pause, but it doesn’t ultimately stop you from moving forward in your life.
And that’s totally appropriate.
Everyone Feels the Imposter Syndrome Sometimes
Everyone feels fear. So it’s not something we want to turn off or stop feeling. It’s not even about becoming numb to it. It’s more about having a healthy process.
All emotions deserve to be felt, acknowledged and then released, which is a key to good life, right?
Fear is an ancient and primal emotion. It can be a vital response for survival.
Habitual or Long Term Fear Needs Attention
But fear can also become a habitual response to opportunity. If we let it, it can block our growth.
That’s when you know that you need to respond differently to fear.
If it has stopped you from becoming who you are meant to be or achieving what you long for, then it’s time for a different response to fear.
As coaches, we’re all about helping others to expand their potential – to pull their feet out of concrete and take steps forward towards a better future.
But who helps you break free from that concrete?
As a business coach for coaches, I have the privilege to help my clients towards an ultimate lifetime goal … to become their own boss, to have a freedom lifestyle and creatively bring their whole selves – all of their talents, all of their skills, all of their passion — to their own unique business.
It’s an amazing journey that I’m honored to share and guide them toward.
And, that journey is rife with fear.
When you’re deep in fear about your coaching business, it can feel all encompassing. Like you’ve fallen into a deep dark hole and there’s no way out.
That kind of fear obscures your intuition. It makes you feel paralyzed.
It’s normal and natural to feel fear of the unknown and for imposter syndrome to get right up in your face.
At the heart of it is the question “Am I good enough?”
- Will anyone listen to me?
- Why would they pay me to help them?
- Does anyone even want what I’m offering?
- Can I really do this?
And I have endless compassion for those feelings. They are real. And they can feel like the tallest widest thickest wall blocking your way.
Most Fear Is Insubstantial Unless …
But, what I know for sure is that in the big scheme of things they are about as substantial as cardboard.
Yes, you are good enough. Your people will listen to you and pay gladly for what your offering. You can do this!
The way to rise out of that deep dark hole of fear and back onto the path toward your bright future is accountability. You need someone loving and firm to help you to take decisive action one small step at a time.
Decisive action will always be what breaks the spell of fear.
One last thing to consider … the longer you stay stuck in the fear, the bigger it feels and the more you’ll talk yourself out of risking what you want most.
So make an agreement with yourself right now. Give yourself permission to be afraid on your journey towards greatness. Treat yourself with compassion.
But also put fear in its place. It’s not the boss of you. You master it.
So … cross whatever threshold gave you pause. You’ll blow right past it and never look back. I promise.